Ancient parable (From Internet)

There was a farmer who had a strong, hard-working horse. This horse could plough fields all day and carry heavy loads. The farmer's neighbours, who did not have such a prized animal, often said to him, "You're so lucky to have that horse." The farmer, going about his work, simply replied, "Maybe, maybe not."

Then one day, the farmer's horse broke through the farm gates and ran away, leaving the farmer without the animal that he had come to depend on. The farmer's neighbours said to him, "Gee, you're so unlucky that your horse ran away." The farmer, getting on with life without his horse, simply replied, "Maybe, maybe not."

A little while later, the farmer's horse came back with ten mares, all strong, fit and healthy. The farmer's neighbours gasped and said, "You're so lucky to now have 11 strong horses to work on your farm!" The farmer, grooming his 11 horses, simply replied, "Maybe, maybe not."

The farmer's only son decided to take a ride on one of the mares. On the way home, the mare bolted and threw the farmer's only son to the ground, crushing his legs, which became infected, and later leading the son into delirium, balancing on the brink of death. When the farmer's neighbours heard this, they said, "Oh no! Your only son is dying! You are so unlucky." The farmer, while aiding his son, simply replied, "Maybe, maybe not."

Before long, war was declared, and officials came to the village to draft the village's young men to serve in the army. Upon seeing the condition of the farmer's only son, the officials decided he could not fight, and so they did not draft him into the war. A few days later, the son's fever broke and he regained his health. The farmer's neighbours, whose sons had all been drafted into the terrible war, cried out to the farmer, "Oh, you are so lucky that your son did not have to go to war!" The farmer, while hugging his son, simply replied, "Maybe, maybe not."

Ego Phychology: ID - Ego - Super Ego

For all the time, ‘change’ deep-rooted as the living principle which characterize the ‘unchanged’ of nature. ‘变幻’ 就是 ‘不变’. Environment is transforming in different means over points in time. The rule has been preset and carried out without any obstruction.

Recognized the same ‘unchanged’ objects in CNY. 这‘不变’已经和大自然的‘unchanged changing’背道而驰. To prove the hypothesis, we need to justify it with evidences. This is a long term case study which consumed time to understand human behaviors and results obtained periodically over 10 years will be written down in chapters, and then compiled for final conclusion in 2009.

Studying samples:

1) Schoolmates
2) Friends
3) Colleagues
4) Educators
5) Parents

HB - Case 1

This is another analysis on human behaviours. Let examine it in case study format:

Case 1

Several years ago, Girl A from India had criticized the importance of an educational program offered by Harvard and assumed the course as worthless choice. She commented those people who have taken the course by saying some ruthless words. Yet, after thousands of day, she has made a decision to take up the program with great interest and pride. What was the girl thinking and what is the thought of her now? What happened in her development stages and what has changed her mind?

天真有邪

男的好女色，女的好手段，这到底是不是时下流行的风气，还是多年不变的道理？见多了越觉平常。男的自命博学多才，女的自觉貌美艳丽…谦虚一词已成古文，礼貌这事已埋土坑。

15 Degree Sights

Does she really live in this way? Intense self-appreciation had brought her down the wrong road. Positive motivations are channeled and controlled incorrectly. The desperate desires to be recognized by public have persuaded her to toss out big chunks of fictitious words she has in mind. What she asked for in these few years? Or even since childhood days? Her wishes are eventually shown in community’s ‘appraising’, ‘truthful’ or ‘dramatic’ feedbacks.

Being cool, smart, independent are always her direction of living. Yes, it is great if she learn it silently (and don’t act to be humble). But it never works that way if she keeps on flying her own kite. She probably does not know it. Over self-assured will led her off the road and into a ditch. Years of locking herself in own fans community had made her losing the sense on outsider views. Picking words that she like to listen, pretending ‘pay attention’ when her fans criticize, preserve ‘popularity’ by acting, negative competition mindset and etc. Too bogus, and too fake of her ‘act as if’ characters.

Crash

When 2 strong personality crashed, the best solution is 'avoidance' from either party. Avoidance doesnt mean surrender. It means diverting the focus to other person (which is more worth to communicate with). To preserve the dignity, pls do not give in supports to the crashed party (to avoid become doggy followers, just like those who like to be in agreement all the time - weak or without personality).

Results :-P

Natural born defensive intentions are triggered when met small test scenario. Failed EQ and Irrational thinking within a slow growing mindset :-)

Think, If You Are Matured

I would like to believe those who determined to live in a small constraint community will not get any development in their mindset, now or even the rest of life. Try getting comments from ppl who has humble mindset instead of individual from the same self-admired group. Ego with wrong direction will only give harms to your analytical ability and forever showing your childish act in front of those matured buddy. Think twice or more on own behaviour, you might found that you are just . . .

今でも

これは主体的な美術。とても良いリラスの方だ。友達、奥ゆかしい素行を下さい。何故? 依然として……不変な事実。拝啓、ねてんなよ!